Monday, July 16, 2018

How to maximize your mornings

You have to start the night before. I am not a morning person. I wake up every morning fighting the desire to lay back down and go back to sleep. But if I plan ahead and use my energy the night before it makes getting up easier.

Getting all the laundry done and dishes done at night helps me function better the next day. If we have somewhere to go tomorrow I will plan tonight what we will do for lunch. I will plan what we will wear. I set my alarm and allow myself time to get a shower and get ready.

Every morning when I get up and start thinking about what I will cook for dinner and thaw out something if I need to. I allow myself time to wake up and gather my thoughts.

Always thinking about the next meal and planning what I need to prepare in advance to make it happen.

I like to shower in the mornings to help me wake up and get dressed for the day. Not setting any expectations for myself removes any disappointments that might come because I wasn't able to accomplish them.

I think most of us set ourselves up for failure when we set HIGH expectations and cannot seem to reach them because LIFE HAPPENS.

I prioritize my to do list and if I don't get to the bottom of the list that's OK because at least I accomplished the most important things. (like feeding the children) LOL

Use a calendar to plan our your month. A large family calendar helps everyone to know what's on the schedule and then no one is surprised. Don't overbook yourself!

Spread out activities and events according to your paydays.

When we feel overwhelmed it helps to slow down and focus on the most important things, FAMILY!

House work can wait but our children are growing up SO FAST you will miss all those special moments if your always cleaning and stressing. Just RELAX.


Wednesday, May 09, 2018

Are you too busy for Jesus?

The story of Mary and Martha gives us a great picture of giving and receiving hospitality.
One sister rushes around the house doing all the things, her hands full and her mind distracted, while the other sits by Jesus and soaks in His every word.
As a woman and a mother, most of us lean toward the role of doer — like Martha, constantly at work  cooking, cleaning, and serving. When my husband urges me to rest, I think that the work won’t get done unless I do it. Any attempt to sit and rest like Mary makes me jittery, counting minutes until I can get up and busy my hands.
Jesus watched patiently and then urged her to choose the better thing: to sit and receive, to allow hosts to share their gifts, to rest in His grace and enjoy His generosity.
As we go through life, we all take our turns at opposite ends of the table. Sometimes we are the ones cooking an extra meal or folding loads of laundry, driving out of our way to do a friend a favor, or doing unseen acts of service. For most of us, this is the more comfortable thing to do.
One day the tables will turn. You will need a friend to babysit, change your tire, or share their spare room for a short time. Your hands will be empty, and you will feel the weight of a debt.
These are the moments we must be like Mary, graciously say thank you, know that we were lovingly served and simply receive it, which, in a different way, is also an act of service.

Sometimes we just need to slow down and make time for Jesus. He longs to be wanted by you.

Don't get so busy in your day to day lives that you forget the about Him.

Remember the dishes and laundry can wait. Rest in His arms and give yourself a break from always "doing" and just try "being".
After all that is what we are called "human beings" not "human doings".
"Rest in the LORD, and wait patiently for him; fret not thyself because of him who prospereth in his way, because of the man who bringeth wicked devices to pass." Psalm 37:7

Friday, May 04, 2018

My Role as a Pastor's Wife

My role as the pastor's wife is to be here to encourage him when he needs a shoulder to cry on. I help him as he struggles behind closed doors when things get hard. When he questions his calling as a pastor, I am here to remind him that God has called him to feed His people.
When he stands on Biblical truth and it goes against the popular opinion, I am here to support him and let him know that everyone in the world isn’t against him.
I am faithful to love him and care for him when it seems like no one else does. I love him like no one else in the congregation can, and I am his biggest cheerleader.
As a pastor’s wife, you may feel like you are called on to do all the jobs no one else in the church wants to do. Let’s face it – in a small church, there are a limited number of volunteers.
Maybe you are constantly filling in for nursery. Or you’re the one that people call on when they need a substitute Sunday School teacher. 
Sometimes it feels like the expectations placed on you as a pastor’s wife are UNREAL!
I know the pressures that come from feeling like you should be "all things to all people". 
But I must remember that my husband needs me to tend to him first.
Who ministers to the pastor? You do!
It’s an honor to serve your husband and your pastor so he can serve the church.
Your service to your husband may go unnoticed by most of the church, but God sees your ministry, and it brings Him glory.
Let go of the expectations you or others may have placed on you and focus on your husband. He is worth all your efforts, and he needs you to serve him. He is your ministry!

Friday, April 27, 2018


I recently had a large group of people in my home and I was pleasantly surprised at how quickly my homemade granola bars disappeared from the pan. Everyone LOVED them! I have been making them for years for my children but to see how well others liked them motivated me to share the recipe.

(For a regular thin cookie sheet)

In a large bowl mix the following dry ingredients:
3 cups of quick oats
3 cups of rice cereal
1/3 cup chia seeds (optional)
1/3 cup of flax seeds (optional)
1/3 cup of wheat germ (optional)
1/3 cup quinoa (optional)

In a small pot on the stove mix:
1 cup honey
1/3 cup coconut oil
1/2 cup brown sugar

bring to a boil for 1 minute

add 1 cup of peanut butter & 1 tsp vanilla flavoring and mix it well, melting the peanut butter

pour the wet ingredients onto the dry ingredients and mix thoroughly

once all the dry ingredients is moist dump it on a lightly greased cookie sheet
spread it out evenly and flatten with the back of the spoon. sprinkle with mini dark chocolate chips

cover with wax paper and flatten down with another pan or cutting board

refrigerate for a couple hours before cutting

***IF you have a bigger cookie sheet just add an additional cup of quick oats and rice cereal and maybe an extra 1/2 cup of honey

Thursday, April 05, 2018

When You are Down to NOTHING!

Being broke is humbling. It makes us rely on God when there's nothing else to rely on. We don't have money to comfort us and keep us safe. We don't have savings to help us feel in control of our future.

Barely paying the bills and not having a dime extra for anything makes us thankful for what we have and learn to be content with just that.

Believing that God will provide our every need is FAITH in action.

Waiting patiently for Him to provide in His time is hard but it's always worth it when the blessing comes we know it HAD to be from Him.

We have learned to be thrifty with our money and spend it wisely only on things we need.

Selling things online to make ends meet is not uncommon for our family.

Miracles usually come by way of the mailbox. It is always right on time and so very unexpected.

In my 21 years of being saved I have learned to trust Him for EVERYTHING!

I can do my best to earn money and spend it wisely but in the end God is in control of it all.

We must remember that and learn to let go of control. Rely on Him for all your needs and you might just be surprised what happens.

"Trust in the Lord with all your heart; lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge Him and He shall direct thy paths."   Proverbs 3:5-6

They key in that verse is "ALL YOUR HEART" not half of it.

Wednesday, April 04, 2018

Pointless Perfection

I don't understand why we try SO hard to be perfect. If you are a Christian you know that God doesn't promise us a perfect life here on earth. We are promised a perfect life and body once we get to heaven.

The comparison battle is so real and social media makes that EXPONENTIALLY harder!

We have chosen to remove our social media accounts as to not be influences or discouraged by comparing our lives to others.

Scrolling through your facebook or Instagram newsfeed looking at everyone else's highlight reel is not going to encourage anyone. All it does is make us want to do more and be more.

We need to focus on being our best self. Training our children to serve the Lord and focus on telling the world about Him.

Trying to have a pinterest perfect life is UNATTAINABLE!

Its impossible to keep your house looking like a magazine while you are living in it.

Preparing meals that look like those you see on tv or on pinterest is virtually impossible.

And if you find yourself creating scenes just to get a picture and post it for all to might have a problem. Trying to appear a certain way if that is not the REAL you.

Making Memories with our families is most important.

Stop spending money you don't have, buying things you don't need to impress people you don't like.

Tuesday, April 03, 2018

Are you on a diet?

Last week a 5 year old child asked me if I was on a diet?
To my surprise she thought I should be because her mom is....
Its very sad to think that parents are teaching their children that body image is THAT important.
I mean don't get me wrong I believe we need to be healthy and take care of our bodies but if you don't feed your children what you are eating, just allowing them to eat whatever they want that's NOT teaching them to be healthy. Its teaching them that you appearance is most important to you.

If I know something is not good for me I try to avoid it and also don't want my children to have it either. For example we all know that sugar is like a drug and very addictive. It causes inflammation and feeds candida in the gut and also feeds cancer cells. If I only drink water I am not going to allow my boys to drink soda and juices filled with sugar and ESPECIALLY NOT aspartame!
(That's WORSE than sugar~it is a known CARCINOGEN)

So instead of saying "I'm on a diet" I just try to make healthy choices daily. Sometimes I give in to my cravings and eat something with sugar but I know I WILL pay for it later.

Instead of obsessing over my body and teaching my children that being skinny is priority, I just try to teaching them to make healthy food choices by only offering just that.
Focusing on taking care of our health and using food as medicine is the right way to train our children. I am afraid our society has put way too much emphasis on the body and try to look appealing to the eye. So much so that people are jumping from one diet to the next, one work out routine to the next....desperately trying to arrive at that perfect weight or size.

God wants your heart. He wants you to live for Him and put Him first in your life. Not food or clothes or anything else. We need to remember our children are ALWAYS watching us and absorbing everything we say and do like little sponges.

"For bodily exercise profiteth little: but godliness is profitable unto all things, having promise of the life that now is, and of that which is to come." 1 Timothy 4:8

Wednesday, February 28, 2018


"And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way and when thou liest down and when thou risest up."
Deuteronomy 6:7

In order to homeschool and spend very little on curriculum I have learned several websites that I can print from for FREE.

My older boys use a Christian Curriculum on the computers starting in 3rd grade.

So beginning in kindergarten or even preK I have found ways to teach them at home for little to nothing.

So if you are thinking about homeschooling or struggling to find FREE resources this is the best websites I have found over the years.

These websites are easy to navigate and have more than enough lessons for your children to learn all the basics.

All you need is a printer or you can go to your local library and use their printer during the summer to plan out your whole year in advance.
If you want to teach your children how to be an efficient typist than you can give them this website and they will learn the basics for FREE   ~Dance Mat Typing~

"If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men liberally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him." James 1:5

Thursday, February 22, 2018

Addicted to Drugs!?!

We don't want to be addicted to drugs. We really don't want to be addicted to anything. And we don't want our children to be addicted to anything either. So we decided a LONG time ago we did not want to give our children soda because caffeine is addictive.

I mean seriously it's a drug. I have become reliant on caffeine and I don't like to admit that.

Why can't we function without it? Most of society drinks coffee or some form of caffeine on a daily basis to stay away and make it through the day.

Then we have to take something to calm us down at night and help us sleep.

There is something wrong with that picture.

Sugar is also very addicting. Its in almost everything we buy. There is a difference in natural sugar from the food God gives us outside and manmade sugar that comes in packaged foods.

I am trying to educate my children on eating healthier and making better choices about what we put into our bodies.

I can tell a BIG difference in the way I feel when I eat good whole foods or when I eat too much processed foods.

Food is like medicine. God gave us fruits, vegetables, beans and herbs to heal our bodies.

I believe if we get back to the basics of nutrition and really focus and eating better we could heal a lot of the diseases that our country suffers from.

We are also trying to detox our livers from all the heavy metals we've been exposed to. I plan to make a video soon on my YouTube channel about why we didn't vaccinate our children.

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Why I love Homeschooling

Monday, February 05, 2018

Comfort Outside of My Comfort Zone

I am so glad when God asks us to step outside our comfort zones He sends the "Comforter" with us.

Moving from Georgia to South Dakota was THE HARDEST thing I've ever done in my life.
Stepping outside my comfort zone was indescribable.
Learning to trust in God for ALL our needs was humbling.
I wasn't sure how I would survive out here SO FAR from my family.
I had never lived this far from everyone I love the most.

The longer we live here, the easier it gets. Each day seems to get better.
The fact that I have been able to go back and see family several times has been very encouraging.
Knowing that its not impossible for me to go back and visit them all.
God has been so good to provide the funds to allow us to do that.

I am not to the place where I feel like this is home.
But when I go back to visit GA it doesn't quite feel like home either.
So where is my home? My home is in Heaven.
This world is not my home, I am just passing through....

The Holy Spirit is our Comforter. He carries us through the hard times.

Saturday, January 13, 2018

What NOT to say to a Homeschooler...

Here are some suggestions on what you should NOT say to a homeschooler when you meet them.
Maybe you are concerned and not sure how to react. I get it, its different, its weird. I know "Why would anyone want to homeschool?" But what do you say to them?

"Aren't you worried about socialization?" {#1 comment I get}
We are not all alone. Our children do see other humans between church, library, field trips and grocery shopping. They even play sports from time to time.
Instead what you should say is "Have you met any other homeschoolers in your area?"
Show you care by being interested in HOW instead of worrying IF we will be socialized.
We will see other kids and form relationships.

"I didn't know people still did that!"
Yeah I know it's kinda like seeing a ghost right. You have heard of other people who have known a homeschooler. You may have seen something on TV about it. Meeting one in real life {mind-blowing}. Instead say "I think you are the first homeschool family I have ever met"
Show us that you are interested in learning more about it. Ask questions about how we spend our days. We already know we are different from most, there's no need to point it out.

"What makes you qualified to teach?" 
This one really hurts because it implies you think I'm NOT qualified. My response is I graduated High School and the state doesn't even require a college degree. Most have never taught before and it is not easy. So don't take a jab in their confidence. Instead say "I'm impressed! That's a HUGE responsibility you are taking on!" It's about taking responsibility for our child's education.
We've been teaching them since they were born.

"How do you stand being around your kids
Often said with a smile and a wink. (the humorous approach). Yes I know kids are "awful" what ever will I do without my me time? I won't pretend to be offended by this. We all love our kids whether are with them 24 hrs a day or 12. We aren't waking kids up at dawn to rush them off to school. We don't spend our evenings stressing over homework. We have challenges they are just different. Instead you could say " Your kids are so blessed to have a teacher who loves them so much."
Some days we do wish a bus would take our kids away. But there are reasons we didn't go that route. Some days it can be hard but not as hard as you imagine.  

"Are you planning to do this FOREVER?!"
When you word it that way you'll get a vague response like "we'll just see how it goes"
This is homeschool code for NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS
Instead say "I hope it all works out and I'll be praying for you"
Unless you're a close family member or a Best Friend we are not going to tell you all our hopes and dreams. We are going against the grain in a harsh society where strangers openly question our children's intelligence. A little encouragement goes a long way. 

There are as many reasons to homeschool as there are homeschool families.

If you've ever said these things just apologize and offer to help and give a mom a break.

Tuesday, January 09, 2018

What is YOUR gift?

God gives each one of us gifts to use for His glory.
I believe God gifted me with the ability to sing.
{I know what you are thinking. "That sounds arrogant!"}
But I really cannot think of anything else I am good at.
There are things I like to do but I'm not the greatest in those areas.
I love to sing!
If it was my choice I probably would not even own a TV.
I just want to listen to music and sing ALL DAY.
But in reality that is not possible while trying to homeschool 4 boys.


What can you do well and use those talents for the Glory of God?

Have you ever really thought about that?

I try VERY HARD to be humble and not proud about anything in my life.

I don't like to brag on myself or my husband to brag on me when he preaches.

I have been to churches where I wanted to sing and never got the opportunity.

One time I asked and the piano player (who only played by ear and could play everything) said she didn't know how to play my song.

Then at another church I never got the opportunity because it was always the pastors daughters singing every Sunday. 

I would get SO DISCOURAGED....feeling like I wasn't good enough.
"Why can't I sing at church?   What's wrong with me?"

I never want to be THAT PERSON in a church, who always sings every Sunday and makes all the other people think they were not good enough.

I am NOTHING. I know I am not perfect (the devil reminds me of that daily)

I REALLY wish I could just hide behind the pulpit and sing where no one could see me.

Or sit in the back of the church and sing. I DON'T want to be seen I just want to SING!

So when you figure out your gift, try to remember to be humble and use it for God's glory.

Sunday, January 07, 2018

5 Habits of a Woman Who Doesn't Quit

When things get hard and life brings struggles we CANNOT give up!

The devil would love to see us fail. He walks about like a roaring lion seeking whom he may devour.

I don't know about you but I am STUBBORN.....I don't want to let anyone destroy me.

I like to go against the different.

Its a lonely life to live though. Being set apart and separated from worldly things.

We are not to be conformed by the world. 

BUT I won't lie....there have been times when I wanted to give up....
stop trying...."WHY BOTHER?!"

Its so much easier to have a spouse that is on the same page with you.

Having the same convictions as my husband and not REALLY doing it alone is encouraging.

5 Habits of a Woman who Does NOT QUIT:

-We have to be open to God's will for our lives
-Do the next right thing
-Pray, Pray, Pray
-Read your Bible
-Focus on your Blessings


Saturday, January 06, 2018

Examining Expectations

I want my boys to behave and {almost perfect} most of the time.

If I'm honest, I just want them to NOT embarrass me. LOL

But I have to remember they are human. They have the same sinful nature as I do.

I cannot expect any more from them that God does from me.

I fail daily. I make mistakes. He forgives and loves me through it all.

My expectations are too high most of the time then I am disappointed when they make mistakes.

I try to remind myself God feels the same way when I mess up.

If we don't expect perfection the mistakes won't hurt so bad.

Maybe we should just EXPECT our children to mess up,

God knew we would do things we shouldn't but He sent His son Jesus to die for our sins anyway.


"But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us."  Romans 5:8

Friday, January 05, 2018

The Stuggle Is REAL!

Parenting is THE HARDEST JOB in the WORLD!
Training children is a repetitive EXHAUSTING process.
I get so tired of repeating myself EVERY DAY!
I know I'm not the only mom who struggles with this.

"Why can't they remember the rules?!"
{I think to myself}

"Do my children speak English?"
{I often wonder}

Then I remember how much my parents had to repeat things to me when I was a child.

Our children will only be with us for a short time compared to our entire lives.

For example if we are married 50 years, we only have our boys for about 18 years of their lives.

Time is short when you look at it like that.

My window of opportunity is closing in. We are trying to train them up in the way they should go before they leave.

Teaching them life lessons and hoping I didn't forget anything.

I want them all to grow up to be good husbands one day and good fathers.

Mothering is a daily sacrifice of myself, my time, my energy to pour into my children DAILY.

The Struggle Is REAL!

Thursday, January 04, 2018

What REALLY matters?

Winter time is the time of year we tend to get colds and coughs. We sleep less and cough more. I've been using the diffuser for my essential oils daily. Boiling water on the stove keeps moisture in the air. Also using a humidifier upstairs.

Nose bleeds are my new normal. Blowing my nose is scary because I never know when it might start pouring blood.

My homemade remedies for cough, vicks and sore throat soother are used daily.

Its too cold to play outside and everyone just wants to cuddle up on the couch and watch movies.

Then there is the mom guilt. I try not to beat myself up when my kids aren't as active or when I don't keep the house clean.

I have learned over the last 19 years of being married that a clean house doesn't mean I'm a good wife or mother. It just means we live here. "People are more important than things".

Who cares if the laundry stays in the basket a few days?

I have relaxed a lot over the years about the housework. I used to stress out SO BAD about keeping things spotless.

Prioritizing things in order of importance helps me decided what I have to do NOW and what can wait until later.

Here are the order of things in my mind:

Everyone is fed
Everyone is clean
School is done
Dishes are done
Laundry is folded

On the days I have a headache or I'm just too tired the laundry and dishes are neglected.

I try to remember that its not going to kill anyone if the dishes sit in the sink all night. LOL

My husband is great about that too and never complains or fusses about things left undone.

He understands me and knows I will do it all eventually.

Not sure if I could do this life with anyone else....He just knows me.

Sunday, November 12, 2017

Finding Encouragement

When I feel discouraged and down about life I go to the Bible. I search for verses to lift my spirit and comfort my heart. 

"And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not." Galatians 6:9

There are days like this when I don't want to do anything and I get sad or lonely.

The feeling of isolation can be overwhelming at times. The devil really knows how to kick us while we are down. 

I have posted scripture all over our house in cabinets and on mirrors to encourage us.

Being the wife of a pastor is not easy and the pressures are stressful.

I know that when I call of the name of Jesus that satan has to leave me alone.

When we are weak He is strong.

"And he said unto me, My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness, Most gladly therefore will I rather glory in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me."  2 Corinthians 12:9

So when we call on Him in our times of weakness He can reveal His strength and help us through our difficult situations.

Learning how to apply this to my daily life has been a very hard lesson.

There is no comfort in this world for a Christian. This is not my home.

I am longing to go to Heaven and be done with all the pain and heartaches of life.

"For our light affliction, which is but for a moment, worketh for us a far more exceeding and eternal weight of glory."
2 Corinthians 4:17