Tuesday, October 17, 2017

Breaking Up With Perfect

I have always wanted everything to be organized and clean. I like things to be in order and always presentable. BUT keeping up with that image is EXHAUSTING!!!

Sometimes I just want to be lazy and not care so much. ALWAYS looking presentable is HARD and I don't always feel the way I look.

I put on make up to try to cover up my flaws on the outside and cover my mood on the inside.

Why do we always feel the need to impress or perform to make others believe we are ok?

I just want to be comfortable in my own skin. Accepting my flaws and learning to be myself no matter who I am with.....

ITS HARD! BEING REAL IS SO RARE THESE DAYS!!!

I am breaking up with perfect. I AM DONE!

That is the best advice you can give any young woman....BE YOURSELF!!!

Don't try to impress or deceive. JUST BE NORMAL.....

Being real means being vulnerable.....letting people in and showing your true feelings.

Its so FREEING~BE {TRUE} YOURSELF!!!

Wednesday, October 04, 2017

Worthy & Wanted

Everyone wants to feel needed. We all have the desire to be appreciated and excepted.

When things happen in our family and we all want to help, it doesn't always work out.
So many of us want to lead but few want to follow.

I enjoy doing behind the scenes things to make it all come together nicely. I don't want to be front and center of attention. I don't want credit for anything just like to be helpful.

Some may not feel worthy to help or participate. Others may not feel wanted to join in.

But we ALL have the desire to be accepted. No one wants to be alone and never needed.

Community is a basic human need. We need connection with others for emotional and mental support. 

To be isolated from everyone and to never have eye contact or friendship is depressing.

So when we realize how lonely it can be and how it makes us feel we should consider that there are others out there who feel the same way.

Instead of being critical and competitive why don't we encourage each other.

Befriend mom at the library who looks exhausted with a toddler.

Start a conversation with a new mom in the line and the grocery store.

Everyone needs that human connection. The brain actually releases dopamine when we make eye contact with other. It really does make us feel important to see others care.

So make someone's day today and smile at the cashier. Talk to the lonely mother at the park. 

Don't every ASSUME that people are ok. Looks can be deceiving. I have battle some depression and one way I try to cover it up and cheer myself up is by putting on make up. It might look like I'm ok but inside I might be sad, lonely, depressed or worse. 

Be Kind to the Unkind people, they need it the MOST!


Friday, September 22, 2017

Creatures of Habit

We are all creatures of habit. Whether you realize it or not you probably do a lot of the same things every day. Most of us like our routines and don't like change. We drink the same things every day and we like to eat the same foods.

We watch the same shows and use the same products for years. Some may call it getting stuck in a rut. Others call it routine. Its really just perspective. I enjoy my routine and I feel like I work better with a schedule and a plan.

My children like routine and seem to do best with a schedule.

I don't like surprises. Knowing what to expect before it happens in comforting.

When you are raised a certain way and taught a specific religion most have a hard time forgetting what was instilled in them.

Ways of life and eating habits are formed at home as a child. I believe instead of saying obesity is hereditary maybe doctors should look at the lifestyle of the parents and grandparents.

It is our nature to stick with what we are taught. To not step outside the box. For the few that decide to go against the grain and blaze a new trail....they will never forget what they were taught as a child.

"Train up a child in the way he should go; and when he is old he will not depart from it."
Proverbs 22:6

Maybe that is why abusive parents raise children who abuse their children.
Maybe that is why obese parents raise obese children. (they are taught bad eating habits)

Instead of labeling everything as a disease or a disorder maybe we should consider it a lifestyle that was taught as a child.





Monday, September 18, 2017

Hurt People.....hurt people

When we change the way we look at people it will change the way we respond to them.

Have you ever been hurt by someone else? We all have at one point in our lives.

Everyone has a past and things we don't like to remember. It effects our personality and they way we behave today.

If we can put on glasses of compassion and pity instead of critical ones, we might be able to relate rather than react negatively.

As Christians we need to be aware of the suffering of others. Try to see past them sarcasm and fa├žade. They are obviously trying to cover up some deep pain and hurt.

Those around us often become the victims of our harsh tones and fits of rage. We take out our frustrations on others instead of taking our burdens to the Lord and LEAVING IT THERE.

Our emotional pain causes us to suspect wrong motives of other peoples actions and words.

It really all goes back to treat others the way you want to be treated.

Instead of taking our frustrations out on others we need to be nice and hope they will be nice in return. Pray for those who seem grouchy or snippy. Maybe they had a bad day or they were fighting with their spouse. Maybe they had a rough night or they are having cronic pain.

Just BE NICE!!! Our tone of voice makes a WORLD OF DIFFERENCE!!!

Sunday, September 17, 2017

Faith? or Foolish?

While walking through this life there are times we have to learn to have faith in God. 

Trusting He is going to provide for us. Some may think this is foolish to believe in something we cannot see. Others may call you crazy for waiting on God to come through.

I know that God gave us common sense to be safe and logical. We know what the Bible says about faith. 

There is a fine line between FAITH and FOOLISHNESS

Praying for His guidance during the difficult times and believing He is able to take care of you.

We all try to do things on our own. We want to fix things our way, right away.

Learning to wait on God and truly BELIEVING He is able 

“Now unto him that is able to do exceeding abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that worketh in us,” Ephesians 3:20

Running out of groceries? Can't pay your bills? Need new tires?

I have see God provide in ways we never expected several times over the years.

Pray before using a credit card maybe something is coming in the mail. Don't live above your means. God will not allow His children to go hungry.

Trust HIM and HE WILL PROVIDE!

Saturday, September 16, 2017

Does God Make Mistakes?

No He does not. Sometimes we may not be able to see the reason things happen. 

I believe God knows exactly what He is doing and everything happens only because He allows it. 

The lessons learned from each trial make us stronger and we learn to rely on Him more.

If our lives here on this earth were always perfect without troubles when would we ever call on Him for anything?

Why would there need to be a Heaven? If there wasn't any sickness or pain, sadness or death, life would be perfect and we would never pray to God or trust Him for anything.

So when God allows things in our lives we need to learn to trust that He has a purpose for it all.

He's trying to teach us a lesson. Maybe get our attention. Humility is truly the best teacher.

We cannot do everything on our own. We must be humble for God to use us.

1 Peter 5:6 - "Humble yourselves therefore under the mighty hand of God, that he may
exalt you in due time."
We are not promised an easy life. 
"These things I have spoken unto you, that in me ye might have peace. In the world ye shall have tribulation: but be of good cheer; I have overcome the world." John 16:33

Sometimes God allows things to happen so we will acknowledge Him and his strength in our weakness.

James 4:6 - "But he giveth more grace. Wherefore he saith, God resisteth the proud, but giveth grace unto the humble"

Friday, September 15, 2017

Fresh out of Amazing!

Have you ever met someone who does it all?!
They seem to have a it all together.
The looks, the brains, the perfect children....

It seems like every time you talk to them they are so busy with all their academic achievements and goals. Their children can do no wrong and maybe they have even said to you

"We are all over achievers"  I was in SHOCK when those words were spoken to my face.

No matter what you say or do some people just think they are better.

"Pride goeth before destruction, and an haughty spirit before a fall." Proverbs 16:18

And like I mentioned in my last post I am not competitive. So instead of try to do better and compete or try hard to live up to those standards I just want to crawl in a hole and hide.

Sometimes you just want to be yourself.....Well all the time really I just want to be comfortable in my own skin and I am while I am at home.

But the second we leave the house and step out into the world it seems to game is ON!!!

I am NOT amazing. My husband is not amazing. My children are not amazing.
JESUS IS AMAZING!

I have a hard time bragging on anyone. People will fail you. I make mistakes all the time.

If we put people up on pedestals and constantly praise them, when they do make mistakes they fall will be that much harder to accept.

So one of the many life lessons I have learned is not to put confidence in man.

"It is better to trust in the Lord than to put confidence in man." Psalm 118:8




Thursday, September 14, 2017

Life is NOT A COMPETITION!!!

Why do so many feel the need to compete with each other?
Always trying to have a better car or nicer clothes?
I don't understand why we feel the pressure of others around us to compete and compare.
By nature I am not a competitive person at all. I just want to have fun!
Being set apart from the world is the goal not like everyone else.
Being no respecter of persons is the goal. We are all on level playing ground
No one should be treated or respected more than another.
No matter what your skin color is or how small or big you are.
Everyone deserves respect.

I tend to befriend the outcasts. The ones no one else wants to be friends with. I pity the lonely and always put myself in others shoes maybe to a fault at times.

Nobody in this country should go hungry. We all have too much and could probably stand to miss a few meals. 

Instead of always competing with our neighbors and trying to look better or act smarter than everyone maybe we should consider each others feelings. 

Most likely the insecure thoughts you have are also things your neighbor struggles with.

We are built for community.
People need encouragement.
This is a battle we are in NOT a competition!

It's a spiritual battle and when we can acknowledge the struggle is with satan not with each other we might be able to win the battle. Fighting against our friends, spouses or neighbors will only hurt each other. This is not a competition.
STOP COMPARING YOUR LIFE TO THEIRS!

We are all made different for a reason.

Our gold standard is to compare our lives to Jesus. He is the one we are supposed to please not anyone else. God is the one who will judge us.