10 ways to be a Good Friend

There are just some people you cannot help but like....here are some characteristics they have in common.

SMILE. If we are happy on the inside we need to show it on the outside. It makes a good first impression when we meet someone.

Ask questions. Some people are so self centered they only want to talk about themselves. But when we ask questions it makes the other person feel important. Asking questions is a good way to start a conversation and instill a sense of connection.

Be consistent. Being the same person at work, church or home is an important characteristic to have. Reliable and even tempered is a very likeable trait.

Call them by Name. I learned this from my dad. When we go to a store he always calls the employees by their names. I think it makes them feel special. I like the idea and making others feel good about themselves.

Put your phone away. I think its extremely rude to pull out your phone when someone is talking to you. Its disrespectful and sending the signal to the other person that they are not important to you. If its an emergency that is understandable but just mindlessly scrolling through social media is RUDE.

Be authentic. No one likes a fake person. Like mom always told me, BE YOURSELF. The people who are genuine are usually happier and much more likeable.

Be compassionate. Listening to others concerns and keeping an open mind is appealing. Showing that you truly care and sympathize is a great quality to possess.

Be Generous. Do for others like you would want them to do for you. I love to give people things. It makes me feel good and them feel good. One day you might need something and those same people will be more likely to help you if you need it.

Be Accountable. Everyone makes mistakes but the most likeable person is willing to admit they messed up and apologize if needed. Apologies go a long way in keeping real friendships.

Do seek attention. Most of us are put off by those who try to be the center of attention. Just speak friendly and considerate instead of trying to show others you are important. When others are trying to praise your good deeds focus the attention on those that helped you accomplish them. Appreciation for others shows you are humble.

"A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother." Proverbs 18:24

Dress Code in Church?!?!

Do we have a dress code in our church? No. But we do have a Biblical standard we try to go by. The Bible says in 1 Timothy 2:9 "In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety not with broided hair or gold or pearls or costly array."

So Webster's dictionary defines modesty as avoiding impropriety or indecency, especially to avoid attracting sexual attention.

Everyone knows how men's minds work. They are attracted to what they see.

I don't want to attract attention to my body in a way that would make a man lust after me. 

Matthew 5:28 " But I say unto you, that whosever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart."

If you are a women dressing to look sexy or get the attention of men you are causing them to SIN.

I believe you will have to answer to God for being a stumbling block.

I know we cannot fix the WHOLE WORLD, but I would hope that so called Christian women would want to obey the Bible and not draw attention to themselves ESPECIALLY IN CHURCH!

We go to church to worship GOD not your curvy body. We don't need to be distracted by all your cleavage and tight clothes in GOD'S HOUSE!

It's hard enough we have to battle the flesh all week in this world.

And as my boys get older I am becoming INCREASINGLY disturbed by the lack of MODESTY in our churches today. I know I cannot keep them sheltered forever but SERIOUSLY....Don't put your body on display for all men to drool over YOU. 

People will identify you by what you wear. 

"And behold, there met him a woman with the attire of an harlot, and subtil of heart." Proverbs 7:10

Doctors, policemen, fireman and chefs are all identified by their CLOTHES. If someone took one look at you could they tell you are a Christian by your clothes?

"The woman shall not wear that which pertaineth unto a man, neither shall a man put on a woman's garment: for all that do so are ABOMINATION unto the LORD thy God." Deuteronomy 22:5

As women we can still be in style, beautiful without being IMMODEST.

Remember everywhere you go you are being an example to those around you and you are also representing the church you attend. Jesus is always watching, not just at church. God is everywhere at all times and he knows the desires of our hearts. 

If you are trying to get the attention of other men by the way you dress that is SIN!!!

If you have daughters you are teaching them that skin tight clothes and see through clothes are ok to wear to church. How sad! When my boys grow up I pray they marry a woman who is modest in the way she dresses.